A co-worker's father just died in a car accident. Should I send something? more details..?

I just started my job about a month ago and a member of management (for a different department) just lost his father in a car accident. I haven%26#039;t met this employee yet (he is always on the road) but we have corresponded through emails. Anyway, here%26#039;s the catch. I%26#039;m trying to get my husband a job here and he is the manager who will do the hiring for the position. We%26#039;ve emailed briefly about the position and he has my husbands resume. The day after he got it, his dad died and he%26#039;s been out for the week. I assume he%26#039;ll be back in on Monday. I don%26#039;t want to bother him about the resume right away but I also don%26#039;t want him to forget about it.





Here%26#039;s what I%26#039;m getting at... Should I get him %26amp; his family a sympathy card? I was going to send flowers but they are expensive and obviously, I%26#039;m the only one working right now. I want my husband to get the job but I don%26#039;t want to bother the guy...





Should I get a card even though I don%26#039;t really know him?

A co-worker%26#039;s father just died in a car accident. Should I send something? more details..?
Yes...a card from you and your husband is perfectly appropriate. Consider making a charitable donation in memory of his father. Did they have one listed in the obituary? If you do make a donation to a charity...generally, they%26#039;ll notify the family of your donation...but won%26#039;t mention the amount you donated (so...$20 or so is an inexpensive way to make a good and memorable impression....without being obvious that you want your husband to gain employment.)
Reply:Much better than a card would be a very short handwritten note expressing sympathy.
Reply:i think that it is a great idea. it makes you seem like genuinely good people that would make proud additions to the company.
Reply:I also feel it would be a kind gesture. I have done the same for classmates, teachers and co-workers in the past. In times like this, those who are left really do appreciate everyone%26#039;s kindness, no matter who they are.
Reply:Here%26#039;s what usually occurs. Someone in management usually sends around a sympathy card for %26quot;everyone%26quot; to sign. And since you are new, that%26#039;s all that%26#039;s expected of you, to sign a card. Management %26quot;might%26quot; send flowers as a company gesture and may or may not send a card along with it. If you knew the person who%26#039;s parent died, had worked with them closely for six months or more, then you would send a sympathy to her/him only to the home address. If you were a member of a management team and worked with them on many projects then you might consider dropping off food the morning of the funeral (just drop it off and leave).
Reply:If flowers aren%26#039;t in your budget do send a nice sympathy card
Reply:You should go around and collect money from your co-workers and send him flowers and a card as a group
Reply:I vote for the card signed by you and your husband. Obviously both this manager and your husband know of each other and its appropriate to include him.


I would not send flowers or a monetary donation, you aren%26#039;t close friends and you don%26#039;t want it to look like you are %26quot;buying favor.%26quot;
Reply:A sympathy card is the appropriate thing to do. Given the situation, have your husband sign it personally also. make sure your signatures are big. Have other co-workers sign the card also.This step adds to the touch of affection and will take the immediate focus off the obvious.... %26quot;That you and your husband are the kind of team that make for desirable employees%26quot;
Reply:It would be a nice gesture to do. It%26#039;s saying, %26#039;I care and I%26#039;m here for support,%26#039; regardless that you know him. Who knows? Maybe in the future he and you will become friends, and your husband%26#039;ll get the job.
Reply:I think it would be a nice gesture on your part, not because of the possible job for your husband, but, because you correspond with him through e-mails (as a colleague). Best to your husband on the possible new job.
Reply:Send the card from yourself only.


Your participation will be overlooked if you include other employees and , since your husband and the manager are not personally acquainted, including his signature could be viewed as pushy.
Reply:I think getting him a card is nice. We pass around cards at our office and I sign it with well wishes even though I don%26#039;t know them. Send him a card because you are truly sympathetic to his loss, NOT because you want something.



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